Building a Tight Circle of Female Friends
Making friends can be tough when you are an adult. It’s completely different from your school years when the seating chart or dorm assignment helped to establish new friendships. It’s even harder if you find yourself in a new city after being transferred for your job – or you might be in the same city, but find that your closest friends are the ones who’ve moved away. Either way, if you are looking for new friends, these tips might help.
Building a Tight Circle of Female Friends
First, here are a few ideas to find new friends wherever you are.
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Make a list of potential friends.
It might be that your future friends are right there, you just haven’t started talking yet. Think about that nice woman who always says hi when you get to your hot yoga class, or your neighbor who goes out for a run the same time you do in the morning, but you turn left when she turns right, or the girl from high school who you weren’t super close with that just moved back into town. Once you have your list, reach out and try to set up a coffee date, or take that right turn tomorrow morning on your run and strike up a conversation.
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Try something new.
Do you have a hobby, something you love to do? Or is there something you would love to try to do? Most likely there is a class near you that you can sign up for. Shared interests are a great way to start friendships. Find a class and make an effort to get to know your fellow classmates. You will probably have several weeks (or more, depending on what kind of class it is) to get to know someone, so you don’t have to stress over inviting your new, potential friend out to dinner on day one.
Have you tried Hot Yoga? One of my favorite hobbies! Leave me a comment if you’re in the area and would love to connect! BTW leggings are the best – from Fabletics.
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Ask someone to set you up.
Let’s face it – new friendships are relationships, just without the romance. So ask a friend to set you up! If you’ve met someone a couple of times through a mutual friend, and you want to get to know her better, invite them both out for coffee. It’s a great way to break the ice.
Once you start meeting people and forming friendships, make sure you nurture those new relationships. That’s the first step towards building a strong circle of female friends.
- Invest time in your friendships, and put that time on calendar so you don’t get busy and forget to reach out.
- Share your heart with people who can give honest feedback with the intention of supporting you instead of tearing you down, and make sure you do the same for them.
- Show up when your friends need help, and ask for help when you need it.
- Set your friends up with each other – it takes more than two to make a circle.
How did you meet your best friend? Share your story in the comments, or give me your best tip for making friends as an adult.
XOXO,
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